Like many people, I didn’t have examples of strong, healthy men in my family. I come from a family lineage of weak, narcissistic, and abusive men.
Growing up under the shadow of an emotionally-destructive marriage, I watched my parents inflict pain on each other, and their children, while saying “I love you.”
My subconscious normalized this deeply confusing dynamic.
So, for many years, I didn’t know the difference between love and abuse… and so I accepted abusive and unhealthy men into my life.
Unsurprisingly, my first romantic relationship was with an extremely abusive man. I experienced the kind of sexual, emotional, psychic, and financial abuse that many people say is “impossible to fully heal.”
By Grace and Mystery, however, my soul knew those words were a lie. I always believed it was possible to heal, no matter how deep and dark the wounds.
I share aspects of this healing journey my upcoming book, THE SCORPION AND THE LION. (You can listen to a free audio preview on the book website.)
Some Field Notes on Masculinity
I realized that part of my soul assignment in this lifetime was to experience the worst of masculinity.
After all, part of learning what love is entails learning what love is not.
I realized, also, the flip side of that spiritual assignment: to experience the best of masculinity!
This has been a privilege. Once I knew what and who not to allow into my life, I could finally welcome honorable men into my life.
The journey here involved years of observing, questioning, conversing, praying, reading, intense growth, and personal healing.
This journey involved consciously ending relationships I’d build my life around, including the relationship with my father. It involved soul-supportive male friendships. It included sexual healing and trauma recovery. It also included recognizing healthy masculinity not only in men, but also in some women who consciously expressed their masculine side.
Here are some of the spiritually-awakened masculine qualities I’ve been reflecting on recently.
I wish more men knew…
…that until they have full mastery over their thoughts and emotions, they cannot have complete full mastery over any aspect of their lives (finances, fitness, relationships, etc.)
Strong men feel and process their emotions, but only in ways that are safe for those around them. Healthy masculinity means self-mastery. A truly strong man never loses his temper.
I wish more men knew..
…porn use hijacks their perceptions of women, perpetuates human trafficking, opens their energy field to dark entities, and energetically imprints pornographic imagery in their aura (I see this in many mens’ energy field).
I wish more men knew that porn is not just images, but rather psychic warfare on their spirituality and sexuality.
I wish more men knew..
…that marijuana may increase their estrogen levels, which contributes to higher stress, fat gain, lower libido, and reduced motivation.
On a psychic level, I routinely witness how marijuana use opens a person’s energy field to the influence of negative entities.
I wish more men knew..
…the ability to move through life with gentleness and an open heart is the sign of true masculine strength. The strongest men neither initiate nor respond with violence, because their presence emanates so much strength.
Their mere presence calms troubled waters.
I wish more men knew..
…that tantric breathwork and techniques increase their focus, spiritual growth, physical strength, and sexual magnetism.
I wish more men knew…
A woman’s body is so wise and attuned, her deepest levels of sexual surrender and ecstasy are only possible when she’s with a man who is true to his word and integrity in every area of his life. There is a level of spiritual integrity a man must embody to facilitate the deepest spiritual-sexual connection with his partner.
I wish more men knew…
Sexual violation is not a woman’s problem, but a man’s problem.
In my early twenties, I was a victim of sexual abuse and discovered a vast cover-up of abuse in my community. I was told, in countless ways, “The abuse was your fault, as the woman. It’s also the fault of other women who were abused before you and didn’t speak up.”
The role of male community members was totally ignored. Yet abuse thrived in my community largely because there weren’t honorable men protecting the women from dishonorable men.
Since we are all individuals with diverse spiritual callings, I don’t believe in partitioning people into unquestioned gender roles. I’ve come to recognize, however, the deep spiritual calling for most men to protect women and children.
Dishonorable men take advantage women and children. Honorable men protect women and children from dishonorable men.
Therefore, male abuse of women isn’t a “women’s problem." It’s a problem that results from a lack of honorable men.
There’s an old adage that goes, “It’s women’s role to protect men in the spiritual realm, and men’s role to protect women in the physical realm.” I find truth in that.
I wish more men knew…
…breaking the cycle of male genital mutilation (circumcision) is crucial to healing masculinity in the world.
If you were circumcised, instead of defending what was done to you, learn how to psychically and emotionally heal from that abuse, and protect your children from such abuse. The strongest men are those who end abusive cycles, instead of repeating them.
I wish more men knew…
…That humanity is in a spiritual battle. And while I support the second amendment, I tell you: the demons laugh at your guns.
I have, quite literally, seen this.
A man’s physical weapons are useless in the ultimate battlefield.
We win a spiritual battle not with physical weapons, but with SPIRITUAL strength. Your open heart, your emotional mastery, your connection to God, your courage, and your integrity… if you are to provide and protect your communities, men, that is what we need from you.
If this post resonated with you, you’ll enjoy my upcoming book THE SCORPION AND THE LION.
You can start reading or listening to a free preview of the book here.
The book releases late May 2024… stay tuned!
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I hope your words spread far and wide. Most men are so mis-educated it is a pity!
I wish more women knew the effect of synthetic estrogen and progestin (hormonal birth control) on their ability to attract honorable, sexually functional men.
If you want to attract abusive, psychological eunuchs who want to abuse you keep sending out the scent of a non-functional woman.